i wear a lot of black eyeliner, and my lips are naturally a medium red color- it looks too heavy. i need some good, pale lipstick that will make my lips look the same color as my skin (im paler than the lightest shade of CoverGirl's TruBlend foundation) so that the focus is on my eyes. i tried putting concealer and/or foundation on my lips to pale them out, but it always makes this gross cakey look, like my lips are really chapped. so, what specific lipsticks are good? please and thank you!

snob lipstick (its pale pink), fleshpot lipstick or myth lipstick

all of them are by m.a.c.

I dont know about lipstick, but here is a lipgloss that comes in nude tones. just look for the one that matches your skin tone.

http://www.maccosmetics.com/templates/products/sp.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY15112&PRODUCT_ID=PROD1 438

Look into MAC counter. They have a ton of these-