chapstick; herpes? I was wondering if that meant I had herpes. It's the only time I get cold sores, when I put anything like the above on my mouth. Too much salt will do it, too.

If it is not herpes, is it still possible that I could spread it through Oral sex?
(Meaning can my partner get the oral 'virus'.)

No, if you are sure it's an ingredient in lip products then that doesn't mean it's herpes. If it's not herpes, then no you wouldn't be able to spread an allergy. But go to the doc to find out for sure on the cold sores. Better safe than sorry, ya know?